As this post is rather long, it will be exclusively in english... The french version will come later on.
If you're fighting everyday (as I often am) with your alarm clock, if you try to exercise, or lose weight, eat right or do anything regularly then you're on the right message !
You must have read a million different web pages and still don't truly know what to do to get up in the morning as early as you'd like, every morning, still don't know how to get to exercise regularly not just once or twice a month, and so on. About losing weight, I strongly suggest that you consult a physician before attempting any diet, "miracle pills" which do not exist, anything. It's life-saving important !!! And also it can protect you from charlatans !
If you've developped the habit you wanted to develop, good for you ! It takes as long as 30 days to build a routine... And as little as 2 days to undo everything you've worked hard to achieve, if you don't feel it's suitable for you ! That's the key idea. We function on several levels, and if the most basic level is not in agreement with you, then you won't succeed in the long term. And it goes for every habit you ever want to develop, or break... If you're not truly convinced to the core, that the change is good for you, then you won't change ! That's as simple as that !
It will take an effort to first change your routine. That's normal, every change is hard to initiate, but if it keeps on being hard or even getting harder... You'll need to be truly convinced that a greater purpose is served to keep on going. If not, you will revert to your former routine, whether you like it or not. Sometimes, the key to change is to have someone, outside your circle of family and friends, telling you to do the thing.
An example from my personal life : learning how to read music (once you're adult).
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I joined a choir (classical pieces like Mozart's requiem) with several levels of singers, based on your music reading ability. The highest level was giving concerts at least three times a year. My objective was to get into the higher level. However, at the end of the first year, I didn't achieve my goal of going onto the next level, as I simply got bored with the necessary exercises needed to progress in music reading. As I accepted a small challenge the next year (singing a small solo part), my performance was pointed out and I was urged by one of the conductors to learn and progress to the highest level where "they needed my voice".
A new purpose gave me the incentive to pursue my learning and in two years, I reached the highest level. But lys gains were much larger than simply getting there... My mind opened to a new range of music appreciation, my voice got nuances that I couldn't dream of as I was able to handle difficult rythms and intervals. I got such enthusiam as I recognized a melody I love, from humming directly from the score, that I went from hating music reading to loving it !
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Getting oneself to initiate the change is the hardest step, but as you accept it, the difficulties are not considered as obstacles but as challenges to overcome, steps to go through. They're easier to live with and you can actually enjoy as you take them down. It also has to do with positive or negative feedback, which can either reinforce or suppress your motivation, if no greater purpose is identified, or if other considerations come in the way. Two examples follow:
1st example : getting up and going to work early
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Positive feedback : your boss notices the effort and you interact more easily with your colleagues. Somehow, your efficiency is boosted... It makes you want to continue coming early.
Negative feedback : leaving home early makes you leave without seeing your family, so in the evening you catch up by staying up later, so you're getting tired due to lack of sleep and your efficiency decreases... You naturally revert to getting up later !
2nd example : exercising regularly
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Positive feedback : you can progress at your own pace, and your progress is noticed by your instructor or the people you're exercising with, you're thus encouraged to keep up the good work. (challenging)
Negative feedback 1 : you're surrounded by people who already "know their stuff" and you may feel looked upon condescendingly if you're not performing at the same level, so you end up winded, frustrated, or worse, wounded, conclusion : you stop the activity. (too difficult)
Negative feedback 2 : your instructor / monitor keeps babying you making you feel as if you're stupid, and you do not feel as if using your full potential, you quit. (too easy)
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Indeed, you need a bit of a challenge to make you go on. Good luck on your endeavours !
If you're fighting everyday (as I often am) with your alarm clock, if you try to exercise, or lose weight, eat right or do anything regularly then you're on the right message !
You must have read a million different web pages and still don't truly know what to do to get up in the morning as early as you'd like, every morning, still don't know how to get to exercise regularly not just once or twice a month, and so on. About losing weight, I strongly suggest that you consult a physician before attempting any diet, "miracle pills" which do not exist, anything. It's life-saving important !!! And also it can protect you from charlatans !
If you've developped the habit you wanted to develop, good for you ! It takes as long as 30 days to build a routine... And as little as 2 days to undo everything you've worked hard to achieve, if you don't feel it's suitable for you ! That's the key idea. We function on several levels, and if the most basic level is not in agreement with you, then you won't succeed in the long term. And it goes for every habit you ever want to develop, or break... If you're not truly convinced to the core, that the change is good for you, then you won't change ! That's as simple as that !
It will take an effort to first change your routine. That's normal, every change is hard to initiate, but if it keeps on being hard or even getting harder... You'll need to be truly convinced that a greater purpose is served to keep on going. If not, you will revert to your former routine, whether you like it or not. Sometimes, the key to change is to have someone, outside your circle of family and friends, telling you to do the thing.
An example from my personal life : learning how to read music (once you're adult).
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I joined a choir (classical pieces like Mozart's requiem) with several levels of singers, based on your music reading ability. The highest level was giving concerts at least three times a year. My objective was to get into the higher level. However, at the end of the first year, I didn't achieve my goal of going onto the next level, as I simply got bored with the necessary exercises needed to progress in music reading. As I accepted a small challenge the next year (singing a small solo part), my performance was pointed out and I was urged by one of the conductors to learn and progress to the highest level where "they needed my voice".
A new purpose gave me the incentive to pursue my learning and in two years, I reached the highest level. But lys gains were much larger than simply getting there... My mind opened to a new range of music appreciation, my voice got nuances that I couldn't dream of as I was able to handle difficult rythms and intervals. I got such enthusiam as I recognized a melody I love, from humming directly from the score, that I went from hating music reading to loving it !
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Getting oneself to initiate the change is the hardest step, but as you accept it, the difficulties are not considered as obstacles but as challenges to overcome, steps to go through. They're easier to live with and you can actually enjoy as you take them down. It also has to do with positive or negative feedback, which can either reinforce or suppress your motivation, if no greater purpose is identified, or if other considerations come in the way. Two examples follow:
1st example : getting up and going to work early
--------------------------------------------------------------
Positive feedback : your boss notices the effort and you interact more easily with your colleagues. Somehow, your efficiency is boosted... It makes you want to continue coming early.
Negative feedback : leaving home early makes you leave without seeing your family, so in the evening you catch up by staying up later, so you're getting tired due to lack of sleep and your efficiency decreases... You naturally revert to getting up later !
2nd example : exercising regularly
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Positive feedback : you can progress at your own pace, and your progress is noticed by your instructor or the people you're exercising with, you're thus encouraged to keep up the good work. (challenging)
Negative feedback 1 : you're surrounded by people who already "know their stuff" and you may feel looked upon condescendingly if you're not performing at the same level, so you end up winded, frustrated, or worse, wounded, conclusion : you stop the activity. (too difficult)
Negative feedback 2 : your instructor / monitor keeps babying you making you feel as if you're stupid, and you do not feel as if using your full potential, you quit. (too easy)
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Indeed, you need a bit of a challenge to make you go on. Good luck on your endeavours !
Hi !
RépondreSupprimerJe suis très frustrée, tu sais pourquoi, non ? l'anglais et moi !
Hi hi hi !
RépondreSupprimerCa va venir, mais j'étais bien inspirée sur celui-là ! Ca devenait très long... Alors un seul message ou deux ... Ce sera deux !